Wednesday, October 24, 2018

Some things stay Special. For ev er.

Last I posted here, I was excited about branching out into a new part of public education. I was seeking out a teaching assignment that would allow me to start teaching either Language Arts or Social Studies. I was hopeful that I would be able to stay at the campus where I spent my my entire teaching career, and I wasn't really looking all that hard at teaching assignments that would have me change campuses.

At the start of last spring semester, I decided to start graduate school because I have a low tolerance for boredom. In the middle of the spring semester, Miss GG and I married because she has a high tolerance for talkative teachers who forget to mention that they have registered for graduate school (but that is another blog post entirely). By the end of the school year, it was obvious that if I wanted to move away from teaching Special Education, I would need to change campuses. So I chose to stay put. Still, in the middle of the summer I did interview for a new job, on my campus and in Special Education.

The new job would have taken me out of the classroom and shoved me into a 8x8 windowless office. Though I was excited to move to a new role, after completing the interview process, someone else was offered the job (and the luxury office). So I returned to the familiar, teaching Autistic students and students who struggle with communication and behavior, making it difficult to succeed in a classroom without some support.

This has been the start of a great year! My class is busting at the seams. I have a millionty-seven kids on my roll sheet. And I am glad that I returned to my same old, never-the-same classroom.

I have continued on with graduate school and will be a certified School Administrator/Principal in a few more months. Unlike the last time I went to a college class, I seem to be staying on schedule with my classes and I now have a GPA that I didn't know was a mathematical possibility in 1996. 4 more classes and I'll be done with school for ev er. Again. Until next time.

Monday, April 2, 2018

Big changes at school

I have worked with Special Education students in some way for over 30 years! That sounded really nuts the first time I said it out loud in a meeting this year.

I started showing an interest in my chosen field when I was IN middle school, and now I have spent almost 10 years teaching middle school special education. Even before entering the classroom as a teacher I was working with a similar group in a different setting.

After lots of soul searching and considering how to best move my career forward, I have made a monumental decision. I am leaving the special education classroom behind. At least for a while.

I have decided that I want to teach Social Studies or Language Arts classes on our 6th grade team next year. Because The Oldest and Youngest will both be at the High School next door, I have no interest in leaving my campus. I've been on staff here since 2010. Still, it is time for me to grow into a new role as a teacher.

Last week I was starting to change my mind. Even if my current job is crazy some days, there is comfort in knowing my role. Next year I'll be jumping into the classroom as a new teacher in a new subject. In a lot of ways, it will be like starting over.

I am looking forward to giving up a lot of the detailed paperwork that my current job requires. I won't be fooled into thinking there will be none in my new position, but it will be different paperwork.


3 weeks and counting

Galaxy Girl and I are getting married in less than 3 weeks!

It's sort of wedding crazy around here. There is lots left to do in a short time, but this time is a lot different than twenty 23 years ago.

There is lots of busyness, but there is very little stress. There is a lot of cash going out, but its been very thoughtful and purposeful spending. The lady is getting hitched in a dress she bought online. I'm wearing my best suit.

Later this month we will be spending a chunk of change on a great party. That's where we choose to spend our efforts and cash. We are getting married in a party space at a local restaurant.  All of the food and drinks will be top notch, and because everything will be done for us, we get to spend our time with friends and family. 

Cheers to a good time and a happy marriage!

Friday, January 19, 2018

There just is no other way to put it

I'm pissed.


Yes. I know I said at the outset of this neglected blog that everything is wide open and that will help keep me accountable any time I feel the desire to rant about my situation, or more specifically, about my ex wife. But it is time to get on a good rant. I imagine she has forgotten about this space. If not, then, OK.

Today there was a simple situation involving our youngest. She needed a ride home from school mid-day because she was feeling lousy. She had not slept well last night. It's allergy season. Whatchagunnado?

If you don't know, I work at the school where the youngest goes. Our school is right next to her big brother's school. The ex lives about a mile away from the schools, but she works about 45 minutes away. It has not been uncommon since we separated that I run the kids to her house. Permission slips left at mom's house? Forgotten lunch? Missing uniform pieces? Gotcha covered.

It gets a little more complex when the kid is sick and it the week their mom has custody. Then, I try to bring their mom up to speed and we generally make a decision about the kid staying at school or leaving early. This happens a few times a year. In similar situations I have always dropped the kid off at her house, made sure they are comfortable, and then gone back to school. I can make that round trip in 15 minutes or less. 

Today was different. I don't know if she was busy at work or whatever. That can be one of the upsides of  a finalized divorce. I don't want to/need to/have to know what happens in the daily happenings of her life. Regardless, the conversation went sideways as quickly as it started. I heard way more than  enough nastiness and venom in a few minutes.

Eventually, it was decided that The Girl needed to go home. At that point, I was still planning to do a favor and drop The Girl off.

The ex knows me well, including the best way to get under my skin. When it comes to our children,  my biggest pet peeve is when she continually refers to the kids as a singular responsibility. "My kids. My daughter. My son." It doesn't bother me when she is speaking to anyone else. But when she says those things to me, I am pretty sure there is nothing she could say that would be more demeaning to the amazing 8 year run we shared when I was a Stay at Home Dad or to the awesome relationship I continue to have with these wonderful teenagers.

I don't reciprocate. These are not "my kids" when I am speaking to their mother.

So, for the first time ever, after enough garbage being verbally hurled at me, I decided that she would have to deal with this situation like any other single parent. 'Yes, I am 15 feet from the kid. Yes, you are 45 minutes away. Yes, I did change my mind because I am really tired of your nastiness.You'll have to come get her."

The end result, the kid still got to her mom's house two hours early. I feel like apologizing a hundred times to The Girl for not dropping her off. I never want either kid to feel stuck in the middle. For the most part I have done a good job of mitigating that. Today, maybe not.

On the other hand, today I stood up for something right. I sent an inconvenient message that I am tired of the nastiness.